A New Spin on the "It Girl"

A New Spin on the "It Girl"

Unfortunately, today's society is all about exclusivity. The places we shop, the clothes we wear, the places we eat, and even the friends we choose to hang out with are all graded so as to see who can ultimately be the most exclusive. 
I've often wondered why this is. Why, as humans, do we feel the need to pick certain options out of a multitude of possibilities? Why do we feel the need to leave others out? In a world where an infinite amount of good can happen, why should we limit ourselves to an exclusive set of outcomes?

We shouldn't ever feel the need to leave others out. The classiest of individuals know that if we are acting out of love, the possibility of exclusivity would never even exist, but rather it seems to show its face in the presence of fear. When we act out of love, showing compassion and kindness toward others, we are proving that there is something larger than selfish desires. When we truly love others we let them know that we will be there for them eternally, regardless of where they "fit in" in our personal life plans or in our culture. True love is about making sure others feel comfortable, and bringing joy, encouragement, and a multitude of other blessings into a person's life, regardless of what that person might be able to do for you. 

In a world where we focus on the "It Girl", and on branding ourselves and making ourselves look "better than", it has become increasingly evident to me what a true "It Girl" is.  I am not basing my definition on typical factors such as external beauty, social status, or financial standing, though those are often some of the criteria for exclusivity in the world we live in. I have realized that to be an "It Girl"you must bring "it" to everyone in your life. That is, a true "It Girl" brings whatever "it" is that a particular person needs it in order to help create that person's best version of themself. Truth, peace, friendship, encouragement, among many other things, are just some of the gifts that can be offered. That's that, no exclusivity about it. 

The temptation to be exclusive is always there. It is always an option to leave someone out, but the best practice for life is to focus on including others. Someone else's life can be tough enough...they don't need the added stress of someone leaving them out. And plus, being exclusive shows fear of inadequacy on the excluder's part. Everyone deserves love and appropriate treatment and I have faith that if we start giving more and fearing less, we will be able to cut down a little on this problem.

XOXO,

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